When it became clear my then-husband had no intention of changing, I left — and finally started focusing on myself. I was determined to understand why life and love had been so difficult, so I consumed as many books, podcasts, and Instagram posts I could, learning about abuse, trauma, and how even those these can show up subtly, their impact is grave.

Overtime, I realized that it wasn’t me that was the problem — that all my struggles made complete sense in context of my story.

I wasn’t depressed or anxious — I had been living in unsafe environments. I didn’t have low self-esteem — I was being subtly criticized, dismissed, and mistreated. I wasn’t confrontational — I validly protested harm.

No professionals had ever paused long enough to help me put these pieces together. They just saw “problems” and tried to slap a bandaid on them and make them go away. But what I needed was clarity about what had happened to me, understanding of how it shaped me, and real, practical tools to begin healing for good.

This is why I became a coach — to offer others what I needed back then. I don’t believe people are as messed up as the world tells them. I believe their struggles make sense once we understand why. And I believe real, lasting change is possible when we heal from the inside-out, feel all our feelings, and rebuild unshakeable trust in our own worth and wisdom.

You’re not broken, in need of fixing. You’re human, in need of understanding and support. And you already have what you need inside you. We just have to follow that voice inside that keeps saying, “Something’s not right”, reconnect with our authentic self, and watch as healing happens naturally from the inside out.