The S.E.L.F. Model
A trauma-informed process of reconnecting to your true self through curiosity, compassion, and deep inner trust.
You’ve been trying to heal for a long time.
Therapy. Books. Meditation.
Everything others said would help.
And yet, you still…
snap at your partner or kid when they ask how your day was like it was an attack
can’t spend even ten minutes alone without feeling the urge to find something to do—now
wake up with your heart racing like you’re late for something even when your calendar’s clear
burst into tears because your sleeve caught on the door knob and it pushed you over the edge
I so get it.
If you're nodding your head and saying, 'Yep, that's me,'
my guess is you'll fall into one of these categories:
CLICK HERE to take the quiz and find out which one you are!
Or click below to read the descriptions.
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You’ve tried everything—therapy, books, meditations, courses—but nothing seems to stick.
You’re deeply introspective, maybe even and spiritually open, and always looking for ways to improve your healing.
But no matter how committed you are, no matter how many things you try, you often feel frustrated, disappointed, and self-doubting.
You’re desperate for peace and calm, but you can’t seem to escape chaos and you don’t know why.
Sound about right? You might be a Seeker.
At the end, you’ll get your unique results, a breakdown of what it means, and how my S.E.L.F. model can meet your specific needs.
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You can name every pattern and explain exactly why you are the way you are. Even your therapists have said how insightful you are.
But all the understanding in the world hasn’t changed how you feel.
You feel helpless, stuck in a cycle you can describe perfectly… but can’t seem to escape, and secretly blame yourself for not “figuring it out” yet.
Does this resonate? You might be an Investigator.
At the end, you’ll get your unique results, a breakdown of what it means, and how my S.E.L.F. model can meet your specific needs.
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You’re always the one people rely on.You can feel the energy in the room.
You keep the peace, hold the emotions, manage the relationships.
But inside? You’re lonely. Resentful. Burnt out.You know you "should" set boundaries, but it feels selfish, mean, animpossible.
And even when you muster up enough bravery to do so, you immediately feel overwhelmed with guilt.
You feel so ashamed. You want to change, but boundaries just aren’t working. You’re afraid you’ll never be as strong as everyone else.Does this feel like you? You might be an Empath.
At the end, you’ll get your unique results, a breakdown of what it means, and how my S.E.L.F. model can meet your specific needs.
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On the outside, you look strong. Capable. Responsible. But inside? You're exhausted.
You're constantly asking yourself: “Why is this so hard for me when everyone else seems fine?”And when you’ve tried to talk about your struggles, others respond with, “Yeah, adulting sucks, doesn’t it?” — and then go on acting like everything’s fine.
So, you assume it must be you and keep pushing through, determined to make it, but worried you’re going to fall apart any day now.
Does this hit home? You might be a Warrior.
At the end, you’ll get your unique results, a breakdown of what it means, and how my S.E.L.F. model can meet your specific needs.
Whichever persona fits you best, one thing’s true: You know what you struggle with.
But no matter how hard you try, you can’t fix them. And if you’re being honest... you’re starting to wonder if you’re just too broken.
But, you are not the problem–and neither are your patterns.
The problem is that you’re trying to think your way out of feelings that need to be felt. You’re trying to "do it right" when healing was never meant to be a performance. And you’ve probably never had someone sit beside you and say, “I get it. You’re not broken. You’re just human.”
That’s what we do here.
We’ll work together, as a team, so you can stop white-knuckling your way through life, start breaking patterns from the inside out, and finally feel at peace with your whole self–your beliefs, your feelings, your needs, your body–for the first time ever.
The S.E.L.F. Model
A trauma-informed process of reconnecting to your true self through curiosity, compassion, and deep inner trust.
To guide this process, I developed my original framework: The S.E.L.F. Model.
This approach isn’t clinical, diagnostic, or one-size-fits-all.
It’s warm, collaborative, and rooted in safety and trust.
We follow your cues–not a treatment plan–to achieve gentle, present-moment healing.
Here’s How It Works:
S – See the Signals
Learn to recognize current behaviors and body responses — like people-pleasing, overthinking, shutdown, anxiety — as clues, not character flaws.
Noticing your patterns with curiosity, not judgment will increase your capacity to heal—instead of shutting down in guilt, shame, or fear.
E – Explore with Compassion
Gently explore the root causes behind your patterns: unmet needs, dismissed feelings, false beliefs planted by past experiences.
Understanding why you are the way you are doesn’t just help you see how normal and valid your struggles truly are — it also helps you identify your true self beneath the masks you’ve had to wear.
L – Let Yourself Feel
This is where self-compassion meets emotional capacity — where you build the strength to feel the grief, rage, fear, and tenderness you once had to suppress, without shutting down, fixing, or overriding.
By making space for your full emotional experience, you resurrect the parts of you that had to hide to survive and reconnect with your whole, authentic self.
F – Flow from Wholeness
You’ve now come back to yourself – your body, your needs, your feelings, your voice.
From this place of understanding, acceptance, honor, and trust, behaviors and patterns shift naturally — without force or control.
Finally, your full, authentic self is free to live in peace.
“Kensie has an awareness that I haven’t experienced when talking to anyone else close to me or professionally. She repetitively took the opportunity to bring awareness to my growth and ways I was doing things well. The trusting, supportive environment she created allowed me to connect with difficult feelings and make a discovery that has been holding me back.”
“Kensie not only listened to how I was feeling, she validated and helped me connect different parts of my story. She asked good questions to help me dig deeper into what was happening without ever making me feel uncomfortable.”
“Sessions with Kensie were a special gift to me. She is so encouraging and yet still realistic. You know when she speaks that you have been heard. Kensie encouraged me to dive deeper in my healing journey. To keep searching for answers, to not accept the status quo. She is that person you want to invite in to your life because she helps you to feel safe and heard and encouraged for healing growth.”
My coaching is different from therapy. In all the best ways.
❌ No white coat or clinical hierarchy
❌ No diagnosing, labeling, or pathologizing
❌ No treatment plan or fixing agenda
❌ No spiritual bypassing or “just stay positive” fluff
❌ No pretending to be neutral when you’re in pain
✅ Warm, friendly, real connection
✅ Political and principled (anti-racist, anti-carceral, anti-ableist)
✅ Radical acceptance, not behavior control
✅ Non-coercive, client-led exploration
✅ Normalizing and deeply validating your experience
I’m not here to ‘fix’ you.
I’m here to walk beside you while you remember who you’ve always been and learn to live exactly as you are, with freedom, confidence, and peace.
How We Will Accomplish This Together
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Each session is a safe, private space where we meet via Google Meet. You get to choose how often we meet—weekly to build momentum, or bi-weekly if you prefer a gentler pace. Every session is focused entirely on what you need in that moment, no rushed agendas or checklists.
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Our sessions happen in a secure, confidential environment designed for honest conversations without judgment. This work isn’t therapy — it’s a partnership based on trust, respect, and real connection.
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Healing doesn’t happen on a fixed schedule. We adapt the pace and structure of our work together to fit your energy levels, life circumstances, and readiness. Whether you want gentle exploration or deeper reflection, the process flexes to meet you where you are.
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Sometimes you need a little extra support between sessions. You can add optional text access for questions, reflections, or encouragement — so you never have to navigate your healing journey alone.
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Healing should be accessible. Sliding scale pricing based on your income and needs is available to help make coaching affordable and equitable. Just ask during your free connection call.
This work is…
🌿 Relational, not clinical
🌿 Curious, not corrective
🌿 Empowering, not performative
🌿 Rooted in body wisdom, not behavior hacks
🌿 Focused on feeling, not fixing
Feel that nudge?
That’s your inner wisdom trying to guide you.
Take the first step toward rebuilding trust in yourself.
Book your free call now 👉
You don’t have to have it all figured out.
We’ll talk through any questions you have, together.
You are not as broken as you think you are.
You’re wise.
You’re worthy.
And you’re finally listening.
Still Unsure?
Check Out These FAQs Below
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Yes! While I am not a licensed therapist, I have receive the below certifications:
Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, IAOTRC, 2023**
Certified Advocate for Coercive Control Victims, House of Peace Publications, 2023
NARM-Informed Professional, NARM Institute, 2024
In addition to formal training, I draw from several key frameworks that deeply inform my work:
Pete Walker’s 6 Dimensions of CPTSD Healing
Polyvagal Theory
Non-Carceral Approaches to Suicide and Crisis Intervention
Attachment Theory
The Grief Cycle
**A disclaimer about IAOTRC: It’s important for my clients to know that as of June 2024, I permanently withdrew from the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching (IAOTRC). This was in response to multiple leaders, include the founder, acting in contrast to the ethical standards they claimed at the time. This means that I no longer follow IAOTRC ‘safety protocols’, receive direction from their board of ethics, receive IAOTRC supervision, or take further IAOTRC trainings. If you have any questions or concerns regarding this, please email me. I am more than happy to discuss further.
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In addition to being a survivor of both Complex PTSD, childhood trauma, and emotional and psychological abuse myself, I’ve been doing this work professionally for five years.
I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals, both in person and online, as well as led small groups for educational and healing purposes.
I’ve done both volunteer and paid advocacy work for domestic violence victims, written a book called Abuse Dynamics 101, and created multiple educational offerings including courses and trainings for survivors and professionals alike.
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I specialize in supporting people struggling with
depression, anxiety, and overwhelm
self esteem and self doubt
people pleasing or codependency patterns
controlling, difficult, or abuse relationships
childhood trauma and complex PTSD
attachment and developmental trauma
neurodivergent identity and trauma
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Not exactly. Life coaching often focuses on setting goals and changing behaviors.
What I offer goes deeper. I'm a mental health professional with specialized training in complex trauma (CPTSD) and abusive relational dynamics. My work focuses on healing the root causes of emotional pain—working with the brain, body, and nervous system to create lasting change, not just surface-level fixes.
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Recovery is going to look different for everyone because everyone has had different experiences and symptoms. If you show up ready to do the work and remain consistent, some of the benefits you might receive are…
A deeper understanding of your body’s signals and what they mean
Practical tools for self-regulation and emotional coping
More inner peace and nervous system regulation
Greater capacity for authentic, connected relationships
The ability to express your true needs, feelings, and desires—without guilt
Feeling emotions (even hard ones) without overwhelm
Healthy expression of anger and grief
A stronger sense of safety, with less anxiety and fear
More joy, hope, flexibility, and playfulness; less depression and exhaustion
Insight into how your past shaped your present
Fewer triggers and reactions
Less inner criticism, guilt, and shame; more self-compassion, worth, and acceptance
Confidence in setting boundaries and feeling empowered
The freedom to care for yourself—guilt-free and in ways that actually work
A deeper trust in your inner wisdom and intuition
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Regardless of what you’ve gone through, one thing remains the same for all people: healing is never linear. Some days you feel immensely better; others it feels as if you have gone backwards. THIS IS NORMAL and I will be there to encourage you through the slumps. Healing is very possible for anyone that shows up ready to do the work. But here’s no exact timeline because everyone’s journey is so unique.
For more information on the healing journey see my instagram post here.
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Yes. I fully affirm and support LGBTQ+ clients.
I stand firmly against homophobia, transphobia, and all forms of discrimination. My coaching space is inclusive, and I welcome people of all genders and sexualities without judgment or the belief that anyone needs to be "fixed." -
Yes. I do not tolerate racism, hatred, or discrimination of any kind toward BIPOC.
I’m committed to ongoing anti-racist work as well as applying what I learn/unlearn in my coaching practice. My goal is to create a liberated, decolonized, and safe space—especially for those historically excluded or marginalized.As a white woman, I know I haven’t experienced the same struggles and may have gaps in understanding. I promise to stay humbly curious, to listen, to affirm your experiences, and to remain open to feedback.
